Gratitude ~ 100 Things

I was challenged by a friend to come up with a gratitude list…with 100 entries. 100 things! Dang! I wasn’t sure how it would flow from me, but I was relieved about how EASY it really was…and I was shocked about how good it felt as I wrote.

I journal regularly about things I’m grateful for, but never a list this long. So fun!

How about you? Do you keep a gratitude list or journal page(s)? How often do you write about the things for which you have immense appreciation? Something to ponder as you kick off a new year…

My “100 Things” Gratitude list:

  1. My beautiful children. I mean, every parent knows their kids are the best thing. Ever. And MINE are totally the best and most beautiful.  14322326_10210917652485938_7999726580524628323_n
  2. The way my Husker Lovin Hubby can make me laugh.
  3. My intuition. It’s so damn smart.
  4. Horses. I love them so much. They saved my life as a child. This I know without a doubt. Oh…their beauty. Wisdom. Grace.
  5. Music. It feeds my soul. This year I especially loved Beyonce’s Lemonade, Chris Stapleton, Eric Church (how sexy is Wrecking Ball?), Lady Gaga’s Joanne (so many great tracks including Joanne, Million Reasons, John Wayne and Hey Girl), and new to me guys like Sturgill Simpson (how can I not love him? He sings a song about me~ Oh Sarah!)
  6. My amazing coaching clients. It feels amazing to love the people you work with so much. I pinch myself sometimes because they rock so hard.
  7. Feeling warm sun on my face.
  8. Books. I love reading so much! 2016 was a good reading year for me and I loved The Alchemist and Playing Big, among others.
  9. Visiting Banff and getting a Canadian Passport stamp. Holy freaking beautiful, batman. I WILL go back to this magical place.
  10. Coffee…and chocolate donuts. They don’t have to be served together, but it’s magic when they are.
  11. Taking the opportunity to go to Boise over Memorial Day to be with my dad and step-mom Mary when he was really sick and diagnosed with Cancer (Multiple Myeloma). I was happy that I could take a few days to just BE there.
  12. Visiting Cabo for a last-minute trip, right before Christmas. My heart needed some ocean time and the universe delivered.
  13. Traveling to NYC. Central Park in fall with my man, girlfriend time with one of my faves, seeing the famous 30 Rock Christmas tree, gazing at the Super Moon over the Hudson, and so much more. I love NYC.
  14. Meeting Grant and Elena Cardone in Times Square. I was a total fan girl. 10X baby! Be Obsessed or Be Average (BOBA)! Sell or be sold (SOBS)! Whatever it takes (WIT).
  15. Old friends who know you at your core. Cayce Myers you are such a badass and I love that we remain friends after all the years and crazy shit that’s gone down in our lives. You inspire me…so much.
  16. My creativity. 2016 was the year I claimed the fact that I’m an artist. I love using my imagination and creating ideas into tangible, beautiful things that bring more love and leadership into the world.
  17. My badass strategic partner and BFF Kami Guildner. I love you, wise, spirit woman.
  18. Cowboy Boots and flip-flops. I love them. So much.
  19. Our neighbors the Robertsons. I’m so glad you moved from Kansas to Colorado and picked a house only one door away from my family. From Tri-Tip grill-offs to drinks over hilarious card games, thanks for your friendship.
  20. Being selected for a TedX audition. Although I didn’t get to stand on the TedX stage (yet), this was a killer learning opportunity and I’m happy with how I showed up, the message I crafted and the fact that I even applied. Hell yes I was one of 80 picked from nearly 800 applications. 
  21. Push up bras. Because…why not?
  22. D’arcy Rogers. She’s been my “go to” woman for my children since Miss B. was 6-weeks old, and it makes my heart so happy to know that I have someone I can trust so much and who loves my kids with all her heart. It takes a village to raise kids…and I’m blessed D’arcy is in mine.
  23. Steak and Sushi. But not together.
  24. Technology like wifi and my iPhone and MacBook. Being able to change the world with the help of these staples in my life = amazing. FaceTime, Maps, Google at my fingertips, etc… SO LUCKY!  (and yes, new Rose gold MAC…you are in my 2017 plan)
  25. Old friends that you’ve know since you were like 11 years old: Amanda Kent. My sister from another mister. Horses. Crazy family fun. Rodeo queen hair, and so much more. So glad you’re still by my side.
  26. Whiskey.
  27. Social Media. I’m especially in love with Snapchat these days. SoMe helps me build my business, connect with people I adore and I learn a shit ton while surfing.
  28. Rockstar Al Dunning. I haven’t been able to ride/cut with him over the past few years like I used to (maybe only two times a year)…but each time I get to ride at his place in Arizona, I feel like one of the luckiest girls. He’s a western legend and spending any time I can in the saddle next to him is pure GOLD.
  29. My health. My body amazes me.
  30. My house. It’s cozy and my family feels safe here.
  31. Kai Ashley. She’s an amazing coach from the UK and although I’ve only worked with her a few times, but she’s freaking POWERFUL. She’s a block buster and her energy is changing the world.
  32. National Institute for Animal Agriculture. I love working with this organization on #epicshit like the Antibiotics Symposium. The people are top notch and I’m thankful they trust my wild ideas.
  33. Airplanes with power outlets in the seats.
  34. Canva. I love this FREE online tool that helps me to create great visual content.
  35. Global Roundtable for Sustainable Beef. I love working on GLOBAL issues and feeling like I’m helping to make a difference to indirectly #Feedthe9.
  36. I’m grateful for the beautiful art on my body. 
  37. Pikes Peak or Bust Rodeo-Rodeo has been a huge part of my life for a long time, and reconnecting to it over the past few years via #PPOBR has been amazing. I love executing social media strategies for a rodeo who supports the local military and western way of life. Plus, the view at the arena is priceless.
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  38. Montana Stockgrowers Association-For trusting me to coach your up and coming leaders.
  39. Montana FFA Foundation-grateful they allowed me to keynote their John Deere Ag Expo this fall! What a cool experience…and my biggest audience ever!
  40. Candles & Fire. The energy, the mood, the smell, all of it. 
  41. Hummingbirds. They remind me to be joyful and happy!
  42. My Izzy. She’s the best old lady Chihuahua in the world!
  43. Water. I love that I can have clean, drinkable water at any time. I also love the way being next to water in nature makes me feel (Rivers, steams, creaks, ocean, fountains, waterfalls, etc.). Flow, baby. Flow.
  44. Outlook. I’m grateful that it helps me to keep my crazy-schedule and important messages coordinated, and I love that it syncs to my iPhone.
  45. Jewelry from my late grandmas. It helps me to feel connected to their wisdom and love when I wear these pieces, which includes an amazing class ring from my Grandma Donna (we went to the same High School-Pocatello High and it fits me like it was made for me), and an amazing silver beaded bracelet (with turquoise colors that I LOVE) from my Grandma Rita who passed in 2016.
  46. Farmers and Ranchers. Because I like to eat safe, wholesome, nutritious food.
  47. Leather. The smell. The saddles. The bridles. The purses. The boots. Oh yeahhhhhh.
  48. The ability to hike, within a few short minutes of where I live.
  49. The fact that I was born with free will.
  50. The fact that I was given a WILD imagination.
  51. My mom who loves me unconditionally.
  52. Friends who are like family: The entire Delbridge family. Without your support, I would not be the woman I am today and I’m forever grateful for everything you’ve done for me and the love you continue to share. Wolfe, Darlene, Roxie, Leslie…best people ever.
  53. Mother nature. I love her and all that she provides for the world.
  54. Freedom of speech. I can say whatever I want to say, whenever I want to say it and I’m thankful for all who came before me and who fought for this right.
  55. The fact that lots of people love my wahoooooooo energy.
  56. In-laws who love my children and who are willing to take them for a few days in a row to allow us to travel and do #EpicShit sans kids. I’m grateful that my kids LOVE spending time with them.
  57. Natural hot springs. 
  58. The thoughtfulness of my friends. Over the past year I received several, unexpected gifts in the mail throughout the year and it felt amazing to be shown love through simple things like a “HUSTLE” phone case and an I Do #EpicShit necklace were PERFECT matches for my life this year :-).
  59. The fact that I’m a night owl and can crank out great content after the kids go to sleep.
  60. People who SMILE back at me at airports.
  61. Breath.
  62. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. When I was introduced to this content when I worked at Arizona Federal Credit Union, my life changed in so many ways. Principles of effectiveness don’t change. This content will be GOLD for ages.
  63. The wonderful women who have blazed epic trails before me and who have gifted me with the right to vote and be a badass in any field I choose.
  64. The fact that Idaho Central Credit Union hired me many moons ago, fresh out of college to create a Training department, even through I wasn’t an expert in the world of training. They walked the talk of Hiring the Smile and Training the Skill. The investment they made in me is priceless to who I am now and I’ll forever be grateful.
  65. The fact that the American National CattleWomen, Inc. hired me when I moved to Denver…even though I wasn’t raised in the beef world and had no experience .
  66. The fact that I’m a quick study (in most areas). I LOVE to learn.
  67. Stand up guys like Kent Fonda. When I was the Dodge National Circuit Finals Rodeo queen, way back when…he saw something special in me and worked to put me in the pipeline to become the next Coors or Colt Cowgirl. Although that didn’t happen, the fact that he thought I COULD made me open my eyes to bigger opportunities…outside of my hometown. Plus…I got to do some cool things along the way like sit in the Coors suite at the NFR and shoot pearl-handled 45s at the Las Vegas Gun Club.
  68. My x-step mom, Brenda. She’s one of the strongest and has always loved on me. I’m so thankful for the big love she shares with me.
  69. The fact that I am my own boss. BOOM!
  70. My housekeeper.
  71. Concerts at Red Rocks. Well, any concert/live music really. Those at Red Rocks are just extra special. Hats off to Drake in 2016. I wasn’t really a huge fan, but I saw your show (at the Pepsi Center) and was totally impressed…and a little turned on if I do say so.
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  72. Road trips. They aren’t terrible like some people say. I love seeing parts of our amazing country through the windshield of my car. 2016 brought trips to Dallas, Pocatello, Nebraska, the Colorado Mountains…I love that four wheels can take me and my beautiful little family on amazing adventures.
  73. Doctors and health care providers who are really freaking smart and skilled. I didn’t expect to have tumor removed this year, but I felt totally cared for, by bright people.
  74. Health Insurance.
  75. Excel. I love you. I hate math.
  76. My summer trip to Chicago and the time with the amazing Jessica Wilkerson on the river with cocktails. And the NLAP leadership workshop I got to teach while I was there…it ROCKED.
  77. The experience I had working with mustangs for the first time at the 2016 Rocky Mountain Horse Expo for a leadership workshop. It was magical to me.
  78. Los Dos Molinos in Mesa. Their Green Chicken Chile Casserole with a friend egg is heavenly.
  79. The fact that I listened to my intuition and stepped up to coach entrepreneurs in 2016, even though I was a new one myself. I’ve found that I LOVE coaching entrepreneurs.
  80. The fact that people call me Social Sarah. I think it’s cute. I am social. It’s a strength.
  81. Arizona in Spring. I love the smell, the sites, the people, the food, the feel. Everything. Ok. I love AZ any time of year…even when it’s 117.
  82. The ability to travel to support our friends who do cool shit, like winning tons of UFC fights.
  83. Guys who make love to guitars, like John Mayer.
  84. Sage. I love burning it.
  85. Liquid eye liner, eye brow pencils and killer lipstick. They really help to make this girl feel like a bombshell.
  86. Leggings and yoga pants. Enough. Said.
  87. Southwest airlines. They are nice, my bags fly for free, I can make changes to my plans for FREE, plus they give me free drinks!
  88. Taylor at Wisp Salon. She is adorable and makes my hair look fab.
  89. Candace Weeda. From client to BFF…she’s a girl who knows exactly what to say and how to say it and her sweet spirit lifts me up on the regular. LOVE her!
  90. My AZ family. Kenzie, Blake, Debbie, Monique, Alan, Carlos, Dane, Cheryl and everyone else who continues to love on me, even when distance is great.
  91. Fresh flowers on my kitchen table. I work from home a lot and I love how something as simple as a few fresh flowers can make my enviornment feel so much better as I click, click, click on my keyboard.
  92. Friends like Damion who challenge you to up-level and who introduce you to other badasses because they know you can’t do #EpicShit with basic people.
  93. Miss B’s preschool teacher team. She LOVES going to school and they play a HUGE part in this.
  94. Head phones. 
  95. Heated seats in my car. Oh the simple pleasures of having a warm tush.
  96. People who cut right to the chase. Ain’t nobody got time to pussy foot around things, you know? 🙂
  97. My journal. Writing crystalizes thought. Crystalized though breeds action.
  98. Triscuits and Sharp Cheddar cheese. One of my fave snacks.
  99. Life experience thus far that has helped to create an unwavering internal belief that I can do ANYTHING that I deeply desire.
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  100. Love & Leadership. In all forms.

~~~~Thanks for taking a moment to read my list. I’d love to see YOURS!

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All the #EpicShit I Didn’t Do In 2016…

Whatever. 

Some of the carefully crafted intentions I set for myself in 2016 didn’t happen.

I didn’t find the rocking country band that I really want to have in my life.
I didn’t add any new 14ers to my list.
I didn’t reach my business revenue growth goal (it was aggressive).
I didn’t have much personal horse time.
I didn’t spent two weeks in Hawaii.
I didn’t put as much attention on my closest relationships as I’d pictured.

I didn’t…
Oh how I could go on.

SO WHAT?

There was a LOT I didn’t do this year.

But…

I still accomplished a shit ton in 2016.

A. SHIT. TON. (Did I mention how much I like saying “Shit ton”?  LOL!)

And, I’m going to focus my attention here. In this beautiful brightness.

Why?

Where your attention goes, your energy flows.

I want to notice what is WORKING for me so that I can do MORE of it.

I want to appreciate the ACTIONS I took to CRUSH, so I can light that shit UP in the coming year!

Yes, I subscribe to the simple strengths-based approach.

Screw obsessing about weaknesses.
You won’t find me SWATing anything over here.

You’ll find me SOAR(ing).
Assessing strengths. Opportunities. Aspirations. Results.

Well, at least on most days. 🙂
Some days it’s easy to drift your focus to all that’s broken or undone.
To get all dark and gloomy.
But, I’m working on having fewer and fewer of these days.

Accentuating the positive. That’s where I’m zeroed in.

I’m shocked and appalled at how many people this time of year get super sad when they look at their 2016 goals. The guilt and defeated hearts I see is so sad. Most people immediately gloss over the HUGE list of AMAZING things they DID.

It’s SO curious.

If I ask them what they DID WELL this year, they might start off with one or two things they saw as wins, but then it’s interesting to see how many people will then start talking about all the things they DIDN’T accomplish. They move from talking about awesomeness to crap quicker than quick. And they do it totally UNPROMPTED.

It’s almost like they can’t stop themselves from sharing their “Shit Not Accomplished” list…and backstory. Ahhhhh…the road blocks they’ve faced. The excuses, complicated stories, and dead dreams.

It’s like watching a gorgeous butterfly gliding through the air and then suddenly seeing it get smashed by a frying pan.

It’s really depressing.

It’s EASY to think about all the things that didn’t get done…(so that you can learn not to do it that way again, RIGHT?!)…but you CAN’T stay there.

>>>You have to catch yourself and then re-direct.

When you catch yourself rehashing what went wrong for the 16th time, think…yeah, but what went RIGHT?! 

Notice where your mind runs to…and redirect any time it’s on the path to crazy land.

Being dark and gloomy sucks.
Who cares about the #epichshit that didn’t get done in 2016?!

Let’s band together today and decide that it’s time to be brighter. Shinier.
Based more in love (for ourselves and others) and positivity. 

Ya, I know.
What I just wrote above sounds super cheesy. But…I don’t care.
There’s a lot of hate in the world already…let’s not hate on ourselves so much.
Let’s focus on the badassery that’s being shared with the world. Let’s focus on action. Let’s focus on…the majorly #EpicShit!

And…let’s get super SERIOUS about doing even MORE of it in the coming year.

What do you think? To pie in the sky?
I don’t think so.
Your mind is so powerful.
Use it wisely my friend.

P.S.

Here are four things I’m insanely proud of for my 2016:

  1. Owning my SPEAKER status.
    I had my first official “Keynote” this year and it felt amazing. Although I’ve been speaking from big stages for my entire professional career (and even before that as a rodeo queen), being labeled as a Keynote Speaker was huge for me. Something clicked within my personal beliefs about my skills and abilities and I’ve started seeing myself as a speaker who can easily rock stages of all sizes…even arenas. And the thing that’s the sweetest about my experiences speaking this year? For the first time I was speaking from a stage and totally sharing MY message vs. a corporate or industry message, and it was powerful. I AM a powerful speaker. And I can’t wait to do more of it in 2017.
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  2. Getting better and better at my momma-lady boss hustle.
    I went from an experience of taking my kids to daycare 5-days a week to one or two days a week over the past year and a half and it’s been hard as hell…and exactly what I wanted…and I’ve made huge strides in how I’m hustling for my business and taking care of kids, house, etc. I hired a housekeeper, got better at leveraging my work schedule around the natural flows of energy the kids have throughout the day, plus I got really good at mastering the naptime hustle. But, the most important thing I did was to get into a better routine of waking up at 5AM on some mornings to do yoga, journal and/or get a jump start on my work projects. This extra two hours in my day made SUCH an amazing difference for me. Self care is huge. I’ll be doing it more in 2017.
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  3. Saying YES to Travel & Adventure.
    I love experiencing new adventures and people, especially when I can do it along with doing work that I really love. I ate the most amazing burnt ends in Kansas City. I saw the famous NYC Christmas tree in Rockefeller Center and walked through Central Park in fall (and met the amazing Grant Cardone in Times Square). I toured a killer western movie set on a working cattle ranch in Banff, where I also saw the most amazing part of the Rockies I’ve ever laid eyes. I got to see three different parts of beautiful Montana (but still didn’t run into John Mayer, although I did see a mermaid). I had the opportunity to influence the conversation around antimicrobial resistance in DC between animal and human health. I watched the longhorns plod down the streets of Fort Worth. I saw my friend win another UFC fight in Vegas. We took road trips to Idaho, Nebraska and Texas with both kids and survived! And MUCH more, including a last-minute trip to Cabo with friends last week.
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  4. My tribe has my back.
    I saw this in SO many ways this year, but one of the most prevalent ways was when I had unexpected surgery to remove a 10 cm malignant tumor from my belly (along with my fallopian tubes and my right ovary). Hello…where had THAT thing been hiding!? LOL. Anywho…this experience gave me the opportunity to remember the importance of asking for/accepting help when you need it and the opportunity to see how many people have my back. The sweet texts, Facebook messages, calls, cards, emails, gifts, etc. that my tribe gave me were tremendous. I felt mad love surrounding me and it was amazing. I love the people in my life.

I’d love to hear what you’re in love with about your 2016!
Comment below or shoot me a message on Facebook

And remember…If you’re crushing all of your goals each year, I think you’re playing too small. Set bigger goals. Move into the eye of fear a little more. Stretch your magic. That’s where the truly #epicshit happens!

Cheers to all the #EpicShit that everyone accomplished in 2016!

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Created a NEW Podcast!

I love that in my work, I get to share powerful stories.

Stories are one of the most ancient ways of learning.

The very best leaders LOVE hearing the stories of others.

The very best leaders practice being interestED vs. interesting (love this concept by Keith Ferrazzi in Never Eat Alone). In doing so they learn, show compassion, identify opportunities to serve, and MUCH more.

So, when was the last time you were really interestED? I mean REALLY interested?

You have an opportunity to get that way, right now…

A few weeks ago I had the “a-ha” that I need to do MORE to share stories of leadership through the eyes of the ROCKSTARS I know. My friends, clients and colleges are doing tremendous things and since I know so many amazing people who are truly changing the world, I want to help elevate their stories and in turn I hope it elevates YOU!

As I thought about what “MORE” story sharing looked like for me, the vision for my new podcast was born.

I love writing, but it often takes me a long time to get content written. So, I figured I could use my gift of gab, record awesome interviews and upload them for my loving, interestED tribe.

My vision is FINALLY ready to share, so when you have 30 minutes, Give my new podcast a listen, leader!

Here’s why you should invest your time in my first episode:

Who’s featured: Joshua Meredith

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He’s a #millennial lawyer who teaches Master’s students about Ethics in the Workplace at Georgetown University.

Meredith is a leader, a #foodie and hubby to one of my dearest friends.
BTW, I love the way Joshua and his wife support the hell out of each other as they both make huge positive waves in their careers. They are a definition of “power couple.” #relationshipsgoals

And…after our interview, Joshua received a huge promotion…he is now the Assistant DEAN.

It’s because he is a #rockstar #leader.

When I asked Joshua to tell me about his personal leadership brand he said:
I’m the type of leader who practices what he preaches because accountability is the best way to earn trust.”

As I spoke to him, I could feel this. He is a no B.S. type of guy who wants to see results! He encourages students to have a plan and to never shy away from fear. And, you’re going to love what he asks his students at the beginning of each class:

What’s a five letter word that will make you successful?

The word?

He says it’s rarely guessed.

Listen to the podcast for the answer and to see if you agree!

You’ll also want to hear what he has to say about being a generalist vs. a specialist… 

His advice to millennials who want to do #EpicShit is rock solid. In fact, his advice is great for ANYONE who is ready to live with more passion and impact.

Are you going to gift yourself 30-minutes to be interested in what he has to share?

It’s time to get interestED, folks!

Check it out: Millcoach Talks ~ JOSHUA MEREDITH and let me know about what you learned by being InterestED today.

Rock on,

SJ
aka the @millcoach

2015…What a TRIP! A Top Ten List:

So it’s the end of the year (almost) and I feel like I want to do a look back on 2015. It was a year of change and vulnerability for me. HUGE shifts took place. It really was a year to remember.

Here’s a look at my top ten experiences in 2015…and their associated hashtags, because I love social media and why not?

  1. 2015 is the last year we’ll have a “baby” of our own in the house at Christmas. (Thanks for pointing that one out Husker Loving Hubby.) I’ll start sobbing now, thank you very much. My baby days are soon to be over. Cashie boy is 18 months…and he loves to poke you right in the eye when you’re not looking (while saying “EYE!” with great enthusiasm). Miss B is 3.5, going on 30, and wants a Barbie Dream House for Christmas. Each time the commercial for that damn house comes on she squeals with delight and confirms to me that the house is HERS. Sigh.I didn’t want a Barbie Dream House until I was in elementary school. Damn those kids to grow up so fast.  #gonebabygone

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    Cashie is ALL boy.


  2. I took a leap of faith and started working full-time for myself this year. Holy F@*#!  Can you say AWESOME?! Can you say SCARY?! But the coolest part…I’m proving that people want what I’m bringing! I’m doing everything on MY terms. I’m making a difference for my clients. Hello…I AM Sarah, aka The Mill Coach. Nice to officially meet you. #ladyboss #millcoach
  3. I can finally say that I’ve climbed a Colorado 14er. Actually, two of them: Grays and Torreys peaks.  14,000+ feet kicked my ass and the payoff was MASSIVE. Plans for the next 14er adventure are already in progress. #climbthemall #ColoRADo

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    At the top of the world.

  4. I’m no longer a closet hippie. I’ve always had moments of hippie, but now it’s clear that I’m a nature loving, yoga loving, love loving, spiritual woman. Does this make me a “hippie?” According to my husband, yes. LOL!I don’t know what to call it. But whatever it is…I am FEELing it. I LOVE learning about what animals can teach us (esp. with HORSES = AMAZING…bringing my passion of leadership together with my passion for horses is SO cool), nature’s university (example: I get really cool ideas when I journal near running water like rivers and creeks…who would’ve thought?), ancient wisdom like Native American Medicine Wheels, plant medicine (including essential oils) and more! It’s newer territory for me in many respects, but it speaks to me in ways that I can’t explain!I’ve worried that people would reject this part of who I am, if I showed it.

    And for a long time I pushed it down. That’s not what executives think about! Right?!

    But today, I think it’s an important part of my message. I finally have courage to accept it and honor it. I’m owning who I am. Thousands of years of wisdom can be tapped into if you are OPEN to the possibilities. Curiosity is leading me. Do YOU follow your curiosity of Spirit?  

    I think it today’s highly scientific, process-driven, technical world…we can ALL be well-served to slow down and learn from our inner wisdom and the natural wisdom around us. It helps us move away from THINKing so damn much and allows us to open up more space for FEELing and listening to the world around us.

    I LOVE that I can rock a boardroom AND a round pen. AND I’M REALLY excited about the possibilities of how I can influence the corporate world with a little common sense—-natural sense. It’s the magic that’s needed. I’m convinced.

    (And I have to say thanks to my aunt Debbie for being the first hippie influence in my life. She showed me that it’s ok to dance to the beat of your own drum. There is beauty all around, if we choose to look for it.) #beingme #lovenature

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    This guy knew what was up.

  5. I now work at home…with toddlers, for three-four days a week and I work very differently than I did in my past life. Dramatically different.I am WAY more effective with my time management because I MUST be if I really want to get things accomplished. Nap time, watch out! I crank it out. After 8 PM when kids are in bed…that’s MY time to work, most nights. That hour after breakfast when the kids generally get wrapped up in self-guided play…awesome time to crush email and social media tasks!I didn’t know what to expect with shifting from working in an office for years, and boy howdy have I gotten an education! I have MAD respect for work-at-home mommas.

    I often hate it and love it, all at the same time.

    I LOVE being with my kids more. I really do. Spending time like this is a GIFT. I’m going to blink and they’ll be graduating high school. YET, I struggle with the fact that sometimes I’d rather being working than playing with blocks or Barbie. I LOVE TO WORK + I LOVE TO BE A MOMMA. It’s a dance. 

    So…my mantra on the tough days is this: What is it that I need to learn from my kids today that will serve me well in my business tomorrow?


    When I actually take the time to ask myself this question, the wisdom that comes up for me is MASSIVE.

    I need only listen.  I need only look with a kinder, more learner-focused eye. 

    The other day I was getting ready to film a video for an #EpicShit challenge and Miss B. told me that I needed to talk to my clients about Butterflies. That wasn’t at all what I had been planning for the challenge…but I listened to her. The day’s challenge ended up being about the transformation process. I challenged people to consider what skin they needed to shed to make room for the transformation into the person they truly want to be. I think it was powerful for everyone who did the work. I LOVE that I listened.

    Cashie Boy will often come up and give me a kiss on the leg out of the blue when I’m working on my laptop. His little smile beaming up at me melts my heart and reminds me to give myself a little grace and trust that all is absolutely perfect as it is. I am living a dream that so many wish for. I’ve got to LEAD with LOVE in all aspects of my life.  #mommaboss #balance


  6. I had my 20 year high school class reunion this summer.
    What?! 20 years? Pocatello High School class of 1995. How did that happen? I didn’t think it would come up so fast.

    The number one question people asked me:  Are you still a horse girl?


    It was fun to say “Yes!”


    One of my favorite memories of high school is my time spent in the Experienced Based Career Education program (EBCE). Students get to try on different jobs and learn skills that will set them up for success in the world of ADULTING. I interned with the county prosecutor’s office, my large animal vet, and my dental hygienist. I learned that all three of those jobs were NOT for me. Thank god. I also wrote a paper in EBCE about my vision for the future. I vividly remember writing that I refused to live a mediocre life. This still resonates at a soul level for me today.

    Although hubby wasn’t impressed with the Taco Spaghetti from the Ross Park Drive Inn, or the beauty of Sun Valley where we spent a few days after the reunion, this was the first time in a long time that coming back home felt reallllllllly good and I loved having my family there with me. It’s good to reflect on your roots. #PokyPride #MediocritySucks 

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    Hiking down Baldy in Sun Valley, Idaho with my Miss B. 

  7. My Grandma Borowy died. My dad’s mom has been one of the most important people in my life. She took care of me on weekends when I was a kid. She loved me so much. She taught me to love reading. She held me to a high standard. She took me on vacations to see places like Mount Rushmore and Glacier National Park. She shared her love of birds with me (and now I love them too and always look for the messages they might be sending my way…especially blue birds, bald eagles, black birds and hummingbirds).She loved/lived to serve. She was faithful.I got to say goodbye to her the day before she died. It happened when I went home to Idaho for my class reunion. The first stop we made when we pulled into town was to see her. She was in terrible shape. I couldn’t believe how small she was. She was a shell of the woman I remembered.

    I held her hand and told her that it was OK to go. I told her that I needed her up in heaven to watch over me and my babies.

    And she listened…

    The next morning I got a phone call that she had passed.

    My heart sank, but so happy that she was no longer in pain. That afternoon when we got to our hotel there were at least 30 black birds sitting on the roof. They were squawking so loud that I could hear them in my room. I think Grandma Donna had something to do with it.

    I now get to sport her gold Class of 1937 ring. She also went to Pocatello High School. It fits my ring finger on my right hand perfectly. I mean, like it was made for me. I love wearing into it. It’s a reminder to tap into the wisdom of my elders.

    She was 94 years old when she passed. I miss her, but I know she’s still around and that I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without her love and support. #angel #elderwisdom

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    Grandma Donna = one the best ladies I’ve ever known.

  8. More than 120 people have been a part of the two, FREE 21-day #EpicShit Challenges I’ve launched.I love working with people who SEE possibility. I love challenging others to serve themselves and others via their talents, gifts, passions. To LOVE. To be curious. To BE true to their gifts. Oh yeah! I want everyone who believes they can do #EpicShit to actually DO IT! I’m humbled that so many people would join me on a journey to AWESOMENESS. It’s all about the #EpicShit, baby! #dothework #becauseyoucan 
  9. I’m blessed with several amazing partnerships. My Personal Board of Directors and clients are EPIC. I’m better because of those who share their magic mojo with me. Kami Guildner has continued to be a rockstar coach and strategic business partner. She is a model of continuous improvement and stepping boldly into your dreams. BTW…her amazing book will be coming out soon and you’ll need to read it. The work we get to do together flows easily and is energizing. She’s quiet a woman and I’m so lucky to have her in my life. #gamechangerThis year I’ve also been blessed to work with several agriculture organizations who believe in developing a strong pipeline of unique leaders. The leaders I work with in this industry are super connected to their “why” of doing business and it’s a constant reminder for me to focus on the reason I do what I do…every day. #agproud


    Partnerships at home also stand out right now. My dad recently visited with my stepmom and they offered the assessment that Chris and I make a good team with the kids. It was heartwarming to hear. It’s easy to focus on all that we DON’T do well, instead of leaning into what you DO well. It was a good reminder to focus on the good. We really do make a great parenting team. I’m proud of that.

    I’m stronger when I’ve got a network of people around me that hold me accountable, challenge me to be better, and that love my energy. It’s so nice just to be me and to be totally accepted. Thank you to EVERYONE who has held me up in 2015. #deepbow

    We all make each other better. #synergy #abundance


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    #selfie time! This was Kami and I before her big Extraordinary Women IGNITE event last month. #WomenIgnite

And…the final a-aha…#10:

I believe more than ever before that I WILL BECAUSE I CAN. 2016 is going to rock. I am stronger than ever. I am leaning into fear. I am learning like crazy. The crazy ones who think they can change the world are the ones who do! Right?! (Steve Jobs is shaking his head yes).

Watch out world…

If you’re reading this blog, I want you to consider your top ten for 2015. How did you show up? When were you at your best? Who was around you? What rocked your world? What shocked you the most about yourself?

Grab your journal and play with the question “What really rocked for me in 2015?”

Capture these bright spots in your life. Inhale them. Savor the quality of the feelings that go along with each of these moments.

And know, that you can have these feelings again…ANYTIME you chose. You need only call upon them.

Then turn your attention to 2016! What are the top ten moments you HOPE to experience? Write them down as well. Get your intentions out there…

Believe.

And then head over to sarahjos.com if you’d like to start your January with BANG! I’ll be hosting another #EpicShit challenge. It’s free. It’s 15-minutes a day. It’s designed to get you moving into a BIGGER dream. Come and play!

Let’s DREAM BIG together! 

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Al Dunning is one of my favorite coaches. Here’s to working with amazing mentors in 2016!

My Own Personal Brand of AWESOME

Idea. Idea. Create. Create. Loiter, write, tweet, post. Breathe deep. Trust.

Overwhelmed. At peace. Crazy. Calm. Heart pumping. Heart hurting.

Travel-Vegas.

Excitement. Adventure. Status update. Soulful. Bitch. Worrier. Angry. Fly off the handle. Slow down. Inspired. Idea. Idea. Create. Create. Snap.

Travel-Bozeman.

Speak. Tweet. Hustle. Coach. Move with velocity. Move like a snail. Status update. Freak out.

Travel-Phoenix.

Rockstar status. Crying baby. Laughing baby. Best baby. Birthdays. Tweet. Clean, cook, clean. Shop. Periscope. Clean. Smile. 

Travel-Wisner.

Drive. Hike, hike, hike a 14er. Feel old. Feel young. Accomplishment. Screaming baby. Tweet. Beautify baby. Laundry. Tears. Coffee. Laugh. Stretch. Lead. Create. Coach. Calculate. Worry. Push on.

Heal. Idea. Create. Love. Idea. Create. Love. Lead on.

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Yup. My life over the past few months has been a tad bit INSANE.

I went from working like crazy for someone else to working like crazy for myself. MYSELF.

…without a fully baked business plan (but Sir Richard Branson says that’s ok, so I’m justified, right?).

I am my own boss. Wahooooooooo!

I am my own boss…oh, Fuck!

This is crazy. This is awesome. This is terrifying. This is ME!

I’m pretty sure my Husker Lovin Hubby is near the end of his rope and thinks I’ve officially lost it. He wonders when I’m going to give up and get a “real job” again. A job with a consistent paycheck. He wants to know why the house isn’t cleaner (since I’m home all day of course). He wants to know what I do all day (because taking care of two kids and working on my computer is NOT work, right?!). He wants to know if I’m happy living on a dream and a prayer. He wants to know if it will all be ok.

God love him.

I love him.

And I’m glad he loves me. (If you’re reading this babe, please just hang with me. I’ve got this!)

Now, I’m going to get real…

I am happy living on a dream and a prayer, but at times over the past few months, I’ve wanted to give up and just start applying for jobs. To take the road most traveled…

Why should I be one of the “lucky ones” who gets to live their dreams? Just get a job Sarah! Do the safe thing.

At times I’ve felt like an imposter.

Who am I to be a leadership coach? What the hell do I really know?

At times I’ve wanted to take a nap instead of hustle.

I’m tired. I’ve been working like crazy for a looooong time. I’ve got two toddlers. It can wait until tomorrow, right? 

At times I’ve pissed off my family. I’m being selfish to spend most of my energy on making #EpicShit happen.

But, although all these things pop up, I won’t give up. 

I’m not an imposter. I will continue to hustle. Why?

This is what I was BORN to do.RockstarBelieving

I was born to be a leader who helps people see their own unique brands of AWESOME. I was born to encourage young, amazing leaders to focus in on their #EpicShit and then hold them accountable for making strides to actually make that shit happen, NOW.

I was born to be a CQA: Chief question asker. I was born to be an ass-kicker and NO bull shitter. I was born to be a professional cheerleader. I was born to help people bring more LOVE and Leadership into this world. I was born to rock #EpicShit.

I was born to lead.

I’ve never felt more ON FIRE.

I WILL do this because I CAN do this. I am on purpose. I love this.

But, language is language.

It’s easy to say I’m going to do this.

But, if I’m going to continue doing this thing. I mean REALLY do this thing, I’ve gotta lean into what I AM. Even when my brain screams at me all of the things I’m NOT.  I’m not a great housekeeper, I’m not an expert at managing my time with work, kids, husband, time for me, time for fun, etc.—I constantly think I’m going to get more accomplished than I actually do. I’m not…

Shhhhhhh…

Instead of listening to the inner critic and all the things I’m NOT, I’ve gotta lean into what makes me, ME and MOVE forward! Every damn day. 

EVERY DAMN DAY.

MOVE. Forward.

Even if it’s not perfect. Even if I’m not perfect.

This is what has been bringing me new clients, a new herd of amazing rockstar leaders who joined my #EpicShit 21-day challenge, new social media contracts and new opportunities to ROCK leadership workshops for ag organizations who know the importance of building leaders from the inside-out. That’s right. Being ME. Moving forward. Hustling.

Plus, I’ve got to be really clear on my goals (that until now I hadn’t formally written. Yeah, having them in your head is ok, but it’s been proven time and again that people with written goals ROCK out far harder than those who don’t…plus they make more money $$$. I’ve been a total hypocrite because I coach people all the time to write their goals all-the-time. So yup, I was NOT practicing what I preach. But…today’s a new day and I’m focusing on what I can do to BE ME).

So, here it goes. I’m making a public declaration. I will:

1. Have a minimum of eight active, private coaching clients each month (starting no later than November) and at least 50 rockstars enrolled in each free online offer that I create.

2. Take the kids on fun adventures in nature at least once a week (even in the winter). 

3. Practice yoga at least two times per week. 

4. Pay off my credit card debt by July 2016. 

5. Make a million dollars within the next three years. (that’s right…I wrote this).

6. Speak at a minimum of six conferences by July 2016. 

7. Start writing my first book before the end of 2015.

8. Have official date-nights with Husker Lovin Hubby at least twice a month.

9. Act in alignment with the truth that I CAN and WILL achieve everything I dream of.

These goals are not totally SMART…yet. And I’m sure they can be stated with much more Vim, Vip and Vigor. But that will come. This is a place to work from. They are written. I can have all that I want. I am worth it. The universe is listening.

Wow, this feels pretty good.

Hey….did you know…you’re also worth it! Right?!?

Do you have YOUR goals written down? Have you looked at them recently? How’s it shakin? Have you shared them with those who matter most?

Need some help? I’d love to be your CQA and professional ass-kicker. Let’s launch your #EpicShit. You can join my #AwesomeAugust club for virtual coaching along with a herd of amazing young leaders (starts next Monday-8/3), or I have a few spots open now in my personal coaching program.

Your #EpicShit is waiting to be unleashed too, so let’s rock!

#AwesomeAugust-2

You Don’t Have to Shovel Sunshine

The kiddos and I just spent a few days in AZ. Yes, it was freakin HOT, but I LOVED IT. Oh yeeeeaaaah…117 degree weather and pool water that feels like a bathtub.

Ahhhhh the joys of June in AZ.

Ahhhhh the joys of June in AZ.

When I moved to Phoenix from Idaho, I was that hick chic who’d moved from the small town to the city. I grew up in an area where there were more potatoes than people.

I hated the cold and dreary winter and the sun and palm trees of the desert called to me. I fell in love with Phoenix immediately and I stayed there for seven years…loving the “dry” heat.  Yup, I love the fact that you don’t have to shovel sunshine.

During my time in AZ I became a new version of me.

I learned how to drive on freeways with more than two lanes (and got my first speeding ticket from a camera), I bought my first designer purse…a darling silver and tan Coach bag (because I couldn’t afford a Louis Vuitton)after which I promptly got a Chihuahua who refused to actually be a purse puppy. I bought a condo in the East Valley, all by myself. I gigged regularly with two country bands (who actually got paid real $ vs. shots of Jaegermeister), and I finally gained the courage to end a terrible, abusive relationship that never should have a started in the first place.

And most importantly, I met some of the VERY best people I know, including my Husker Lovin Hubby (who then convinced me to leave AZ for Colorado…how he did this, I’m still not sure. LOL).

These people supported the hell out of me and my personal development…and a few of them taught me important things like how to enjoy blueberry martinis on hot summer nights and gourmet grilled cheese sandwiches at trendy spots in Scottsdale.

It was in AZ that I learned about somatic leadership. Through my work as a Director of Training and Development for the two largest credit unions in AZ, I got super grounded in the fact that leadership is more about BEING than DOING. AND it was in AZ that I was exposed to the fact there were people in this world who work with horses to teach corporate leaders.

My mind was blown. I could marry my love of HORSES and leadership? Shut the front door. 

I’ve been a horse crazy girl for as long as I can remember and this news changed my world.

Thank god for my life in Arizona.  I honor the time I spent in the Valley of the Sun and embrace the lessons I learned and how they’ve shaped who I am right now.

During this trip, I got to enjoy a few of my favorite things. Dutch Bros coffee, Oregano’s Italian Chicken Pizza with red onion and gorgonzola, rolled Tacos with red sauce from the hole in the wall drive-thru taco joint, and time with friends. I also did my first Periscope broadcast in the horse pasture with my kiddos (follow me @millcoach) and I facilitated equine coaching sessions with two powerful women leaders. Yes, we had to do them at 6 AM, before the sun melted our skin off, but my AZ herd gifted the women with some powerful and practical lessons in leadership.

Miss B and Cupid bonding in the heat.

Miss B and Cupid bonding in the heat.

Here are two leadership gems that stood out the loudest:

1. Support. You have an amazing network of people around you, both young and old, who have your back. Don’t be afraid to lean on them in times of need.  They WANT to help you.  This lesson showed up through a herd of four horses who surrounded a leader as she talked about a tough situation she was having in life. The horses stood close to her, with stillness and deep breaths. It was truly beautiful.


What areas in your life could YOU use some support, gorgeous? Reach out to your network of support now. It’s a sign of strength. Be strong.

2. You don’t have to eat dirt. One leader shared the fact that she felt like she needed to pretend to be ok with a situation at work, when she really wasn’t really ok with it. The mare she was working with literally started to eat dirt as she spoke. How often do you feel like you have to eat dirt in your work or personal life? As we talked about what the horse was doing, it became very clear that we have choices. We can choose to lead in ways OTHERS want (and eat dirt), or we can choose to influence a third alternative. In doing so you’ll honor yourself, your people and your company.

Is there a place in your life where you’re feeling like you need to be someone or something you’re not? STOP being a fraud and SHOW UP THE WAY YOU WANT TO SHOW UP. It’s what you’re being called to do and everyone around you will benefit when you honor what’s been put into your heart.

Interested in experiencing what horses can teach YOU about leadership? Give me a shout at sarah@syzygy-co.com AND be on the look-out for my FREE 21-Day #EpicShit challenge. It’s coming soon!

The time to leap is now honey, so let’s leap together!

What’s Being a Leader All About?

I spent some time tonight reflecting about what I believe being a leader is all about.

Here’s my truth:

-If you’re a leader, you JUST LEAD. You can’t stop it. It’s what you were born to do. It’s what your soul knows you must do. Even when you think you can’t, your inner voice screams “LEAD!” Lead now. 

-Being a leader is about trusting YOUR gut, YOUR intuition, YOUR inner voice, YOUR whatever you want to call it. You’re hearing/feeling things for a reason. Don’t silence the noise. Trust YOURSELF (yes, your OWN guts—not your husband’s/wife’s, your co-workers, your parents, your neighbors, your _______________.). Trust now.

-Leaders should spend 80% of their time listening. Leaders do all they can to truly hear others…at the level of their soul. It’s been said that the desire to be heard is almost as important as the desire to feel LOVE. Listening is not a beginner skill. It takes work to master. So, listen…to people (their emotions, their stories, their silent pleas for help), to animals (horses, birds, your dog, whatever), to nature (what’s the wind calling out to you?), and most importantly, to your GUT. Listening = love. Listen now.

-Leaders do shit every day to make life BETTER–and the desire and devotion to improve things never stops. I listened to a powerful TED talk today about a school principle named Linda Cliatt-Wayman, who’d turned a “low-performing and persistently dangerous” school in North Philadelphia around in one, short year. To make this happen, she shared her go to question for staff: “So what….now, what?” So what…that 100% of the kids in this school are in poverty, so what….that attendance is crazy low…so what that…blah, blah, blah. “So what. Now, what?” What are YOU going to do about it? What can WE do about it? What IS going to change? Leaders see the POSSIBILITY of MORE and MOVE into action. They do this by loving more, sharing more understanding, sharing more beauty, sharing more abundance, sharing more awesome, and providing a bright vision for POSSIBILITY.  And, at the end of the day, they show up and cut out the B.S. Make shit happen, now. 

What's your leadership truth? Lead NOW!

What’s your leadership truth? Lead NOW!

If you’re ready to start LEADING in a bigger way, let’s talk. Shoot me a message at sarah@syzygy-co.com to schedule your free LEAD NOW! strategy session. I can help you do some really EPIC shit.

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LEAD ON my lovelies.

No Time? Maybe You Should Grow Some COURAGE

I wish I just had more time.
I don’t know how I’m going to get everything done.
I HAVE to do this task/project/request.     

Have you found yourself muttering something like this within the past week?

You feel an almost constant tug. Muscles tighten, your breath is short and you feel your throat constrict.

When you’re doing one thing, you’re anxious about the ten other things you’re not doing.  Or you’re worried about what’s coming up next.

You often long for time for yourself…to do the things YOU really WANT to do.

Today, many of us live in an environment painted with the illusion of urgency. Lots of people feel a sense of entitlement, to get/have YOUR attention, IMMEDIATELY.Time

I need you NOW!

Ding. You just got an “important” email.

Buzz.  Your bff is texting you.

Chirp. Oh, you just got tweeted. #cool

Ring-Ring.  Your biggest client is calling now and it’s an emergency.

Now you’re at a stoplight…better check your phone…something important is happening…

Do you have “FOMO” (fear of missing out)? Your phone battery is sucked dry before noon each day because you’re constantly checking in.

It’s madness. Really.

You can stop this madness. Today.  Really.

I want you to breath this in:  My time, is MY time. I CHOOSE how I spend each minute.  I create my own reality. 

So here it is: Time management is all about choices. It’s that simple. Choose crazy or choose cool.  Choose to be very a “important” person and fill every waking moment with urgent and important things or choose to be very effective, focusing on important but not urgent things (yes, I LOVE Stephen Covey and the Time Management Matrix).

You KNOW this. Right? So what’s the problem?

You’re being a puss. 

Yup. I just said that.  And I’m going to go on…

You’re lacking COURAGE…to be YOU and to live a life that’s YOURS.

Why?

You’re REACTING to things that don’t really matter.

Perhaps you’re doing this to avoid having to get real with others (or even yourself) about what you truly want/need. You might even justify it by saying well, “It’s my job” or “I want to keep the peace” or “I am a servant heart.”

So then why do you feel exhausted, beautiful? Why don’t you ever have that block of time that is just for YOU?

Maybe you’re even feeling a little resentful?  All of these people…stealing your time.

But, you let them, darling.

The good news?  You’re reading this post today…so I’d bet you’re ready to make a change.  Congrats!

You can take off your puss pants, and step into your own BADASSery.

How? Check out these seven time tips:

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  1. Stay laser focused on YOU.

    What’s your purpose? What are your goals? What roles are most important to you? What’s the major cool thing you want to put out into the world?

    If you know your target(s), it’s easier to maneuver around ANYTHING that might get in the way (including other people’s agendas).  Reconnect with YOUR truths EVERY day.  Leadership (of self and of others) starts with an “inside-out” approach.

  2. Get real with yourself about how much time things really take and schedule the right amount of time.

    I’m constantly thinking I can get things done in 30-minutes and then two hours later, I’m still not done.  (Perfectionist much?)

    This under-estimating problem just leads to frustration. Be realistic. There is no prize for getting shit done faster…quality is better than speed. Schedule time for quality.  Lately I’ve been guestimating how much time a project will take, and then doubling (or even sometimes tripling it) in my calendar.  Then if I get done early, I have the gift of time!

  3. Just BE. In the moment. Feel it. Be present.

    Be CURIOUS instead of crazed about time. Get over the “FOMO” and think “JOMO” (Joy of missing out). Fully occupy your space.

  4. Say “No.” Unapologetically.

    When?  Whenever a request is being made of you that isn’t a priority (for YOU).  Think about #1…is the request aligned to YOU?  If it doesn’t, you can say “No,” without a second thought.

    I know, this is easier said then done…and I know this from lots of experience of being a puss. But when you do own your passion and mission, saying “No,” feels good.  Why? Because you’re actually saying YES to YOU.

    My favorite way to say “NO”: “Wow! I really appreciate you thinking of me, but I won’t be able to do this.”

    Will this approach piss some people off? Sure. But it doesn’t matter.  Aim for ROCKSTAR status…not mediocrity.

    Here’s another scenario where you’ve got to hone your “No”: Meetings. My Husker Loving Hubby is a great model for me on this one.  He reminds me that when a meeting is scheduled for an hour, it needs to be done in an hour.  If the meeting moderator doesn’t adhere to the established time constraints, he will actually get up and walk out, even if it’s still going! That part gives me a little heartburn, but I love the principle!

    So, what do you do if you’re in the never-ending meeting and you still have agenda items to explore? It’s YOUR job to A) check-in and let the other person/people know you have a hard stop at X o’clock.  Do this 5-10 minutes before your scheduled time is up B) make an offer to schedule another time to complete the work.  Yes…you can stop the meeting.

    By continuing on and not saying a word, it shows people it’s ok to just steal your time…and they will do it again, and again.  Don’t give your soul away. Say “No.”

  5. If you really care…find someone else who can help with requests/tasks.

    This means you might need to LET GO of the need to do everything yourself. Yes, you can likely do it better than someone else, and you might need to coach them along the way, but who cares? Give someone else the gift of experience. Are you a leader or an island?

    If you have to say “No” it’s super awesome to provide an alternative like “I can’t help with this, but I know that Jill was looking for an opportunity to try her hand at this type of project.  Have you asked her?”

  6. Ask “Does it have to be done right NOW?”

    You might be surprised about the answers you get to this question. Don’t resign yourself to false deadlines. Most requests being thrown your way can be honored…later.

    AND the cool part? Whoever asked for your help with be HAPPY as a pig in shit! Tomorrow, or next Wednesday could be great alternatives to right now. Don’t assume you know the other person’s timeline.

  7. Ask questions and shift priorities, ONLY when YOU want to. If the person making the request is your boss or someone you really respect or want to help, try to learn more about why their request appears so urgent.

    Perhaps you DO need to re-prioritize your tasks so you can help.  TimeNotEverything

    Perhaps you Don’t…

    But, before you decide, you may need more information.

    Try something like this: “Please help me to understand…”  

    1. Why I need to drop my current priorities to fit this in?
    2. How I can fit this task in with the other ten priorities I have on my plate right now?
    3. Why do I need to be the one who does this?

That’s it.  Stay focused.  Say “No.” 

Do you need someone to help you stay accountable to this tips? Someone to kick your ass when you fall off the wagon? Enlist a friend.

OR, I help people do epic shit all the time, and I can be part of YOUR journey to AWESOME.  I can help you stay true to what YOU”RE being called to do. Shoot me an email at sarah@syzygy-co.com and we can chat about how this can work.  Yea, I might call you a puss (lovingly of course), but you can call me out as too, because time is a dance. You learn and you grow. Some days you’re stronger than others, but each day is a new opportunity to choose. 

What choices are you making today?  

3 Things Horses Teach Leaders

For the past several years, I’ve been incorporating the wisdom of horses into all sorts of leadership development workshops. Over this time I’ve learned a lot about my own leadership brand and purpose. I’ve also worked with some amazing equine-guided rockstars who’ve inspired me. And I’ve seen incredible lessons offered by horses to people who have strong desires to step up their leadership games.

Horse-to-human...oh the lessons you can hear!

Horse-to-human…oh the lessons you can hear!

As I look ahead to spring, I’m beyond excited to continue my journey with horses and LIVING my passion for helping develop leaders who will do EPIC shit in this world!

The upcoming Leadership Through the Eyes of the Horse workshops that I’ll be facilitating with my business partner, Kami Guilder (in my beloved Arizona and beautiful Rocky Mountains in Colorado) are going to be powerful. As we plan for these events, my heart starts pumping harder, my mind reflects back to the people I’ve seen grow by listening to the lessons the horses offered and I grow impatient because I can’t wait for these events to get here! Why do I love this work so much? Because of these three lessons I consistently see the horses demonstrating:

1. Leaders must lead THEMSELVES effectively before they can be good leaders of others.

2.  Gut instincts matter.  Listen to them. Your heart will tell you way more than your brain. Leaders often forget this…

3.  Being curious is the key to new breakthroughs in business, in life…in everything.

Group activities with multiple horses and leaders can create lots of fun layers of learning.

Group activities with multiple horses and leaders can create lots of fun layers of learning.

Being able to help leaders have experiences that teach these lessons (among others) is a blessing. Today I ran across a few pictures of a workshop in AZ from 2011. Since these pics were snapped the people you see have seriously been ROCKING the leadership world. I’ve seen their influence grow, their confidence bloom and yes, even many of their bank accounts have expanded!

Lead me...with authenticity please.

Lead me…with authenticity please.

As you look at the pictures, be CURIOUS.  Ask “What lesson was this horse teaching?” Be curious about what you think the leader in the picture is feeling. Be curious about how horses might be able to help YOU step up your leadership game and have the courage to find out by registering for an upcoming workshop.

Have questions? Let me know: sarah@syzygy-co.com.

Are you ready to do YOUR EPIC shit?

Who are you leading?

Who are you leading?

Date Nights Rock

Husker Lovin Hubby and I have been making it a point to put effort into regular date nights since Cash arrived. I often have anxiety leading up to our dates because I worry about leaving the kidlets with a sitter, knowing I’ve hardly seen them during the work week. But, once we pull out of the driveway and head down the road, it gets better…

No matter if our date is a simple dinner sans kids or an elaborate affair, one thing is always the same…I love him more at the end of each date. I feel reconnected to the man I married.

Is this important when you’re running non-stop? Absolutely.

Does our marriage suffer when we skip a date? Oh boy.

Does it take effort? Hell yes.

My advice to Mommas is to make date night a priority! Your kids will benefit, you will benefit, and your hub will benefit. It’s a win/win/win! (Although this concept isn’t rocket science, it’s amazing how many parents don’t carve out this special time…hundreds of excuses later, they’re stressed, snippy and sad inside…I know this from experience).

Sometimes when gearing up for date night it takes all I have to get pumped. Sometimes I’m tired, sometimes I’m not really lovin my hubby for some reason or another, sometimes I’d rather hang with the kids, sometimes…the list goes on. BUT…after each date night I’m so glad we went.

Here a few date night DOs:

1. Live music and make-outs!

Need a great night out? Add music! We just saw the Zac Brown Band this weekend and loved singing at the top of our lungs to our fav tunes. Good times! Live music is food for the soul! Move your body, enjoy the people watching, smooch in between songs and simply rock out.

Need a cheap date night with live music? Hit up a local bar that has a local band playing and enjoy two stepping the night away for the cost of a cocktail.

2. Look hot!

Enjoy the date prep. Even have the sitter arrive early so you can have uninterrupted time to curl your locks and perfect your pout. Make him get excited about seeing you all glammed up! Even if you’re doing simple jeans and a T, add a little something special to show him you still care about impressing him.

3. Sit next to him vs. across during drinks and dinner.

Touch his knee, caress his neck with your fingertips, whisper into his ear…just be close. Breathe him in. Enjoy that you don’t have your little ones pulling your attention away from your man.

4. Go out early…happy hour drinks and appetizers can save you big $$$ and you’ll have a great time on a budget.

Get out there and date your men Mommas!

Here are a couple of recent date night pics that I love…even though HLH can’t help but be a smart ass! 😘

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HLH and I before the ZBB concert on an amazing September night.

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Our Anniversary night on the town. We checked out the newly renovated Union Station.